Second Layer of Burnout-2
But, a cracked or broken cup can't retain water, no matter how much is poured in. All the nurture in the world can't help a home where parents don't enforce healthy boundaries.
March is burnout month.
Lots of Homeschoolers experience burnout this time of year.
You'll find some of the symptons (and their cures) on my Homeschool Essentials Website
Now, back to our irregularly scheduled blog. . .
Yes, I'm essentially an unschooler. But as someone said some time ago, "Unschooling isn't unparenting." Children need strong, clear boundaries to make them feel safe, to give them discipline, and to receive nurture. That's right. Boundaries are the sides of the cup. Without them, nuture is wasted.
A lack of nurture makes children despondent, resentful, frustrated and depressed. A lack of boundaries can add defiance and anger to the mix. These problems can be disguised and easily overlooked when there are other distractions, like the holidays.
But we go through a series of days without distraction, and enforced confinement often aggravated by inclement weather, we find these problems difficult or impossible to ignore. In a basically functional home, they reveal themselves in burnout, frustration, discouragement. In a dysfunctional home, it shows up as abusive behavior. That's why my experience with the two seriously failed homeschools clarified the issues for me.
It was clear and unmistakeable in those homes. And seeing it so clearly there, in its most extreme form, I recognized it in my own home. And then the pattern repeated and revealed itself in other homes.
There's a bonus to understanding burnout. It not only improves our homeschools, it improves our homes. Not a small thing, that.
Next, I'll deal with the innermost layer of the onion we experience as burnout.